Hot Date Tip: Submunication

Sub-communications are words that you don't say - it's your actions thatmunicate. For example, if she says you are a jerk, you don't defend yourself; you just let it roll off your back. You aremunicating that you are trustworthy, you are an Alpha Male. You are in your own reality and that she doesn't get to you.
Women don't take things literally. They put it through at least one set of filters. They often take what you say as just the opposite. If you say to a woman that she is beautiful, she takes this as, "What is he really after?"
Think in terms of counter intuitive.
If you say, "You are moody, " she will see that you are in total control of themunication. After all, from a woman's perspective, she hears "You are beautiful" several times a day (if she is beautiful).
When you say something that she doesn't hear it tells her that you are different.
You can say something like, "I could really be into you but you are like a little sister to me." This ismunicating to her like, "You are annoying, get away from me." To guys it would seem that you are lying to her - which you really want to be with her. But from her point of views she sees this as you are not being literal. You are actually speaking her language.
Since women know what you mean, she knows that you are not lying to her.
This is not being un-genuine. Think of sex, what do you do before sex? You have foreplay. What do you do before foreplay? You havemunication foreplay.
Many guys think of getting right into sex, however, these are the guys who usually never get sex. Then you have guys that just think that there is foreplay before sex. Well, how do you get to that point first? If they put their hands all over the girl they will just walk away. So, there must be another foreplay before she will allow you to touch her.
Here is what one guy does who is consider a "natural", and that is when he approaches three or four girls, he picks one out and say, "Hey, give me your phone number, I want to talk to you someday." The woman usually responds by saying, "Oh, yea, sure."
What he had done was immediately take control of the situation. The other women in the group start playing with their hair or do something that would indicate to him words to the affect, "Hey look at me."
When you say this to a woman, you must have confidence and complete congruence. What I mean by this is you don't timidly ask (more like amand) for her number. Otherwise it will not work.
This is called the direct approach. You can also start with the indirect approach. But never be spineless - this will get you nowhere. Really hot girls like a challenge. She knows that she can get any guy, which means that they are not a challenge. But when you approach a woman with sub-communication that sleeping with her you will not take seriously, she will respond in like.
Woman can tell in seconds if you have tension in your shoulder, if you are nervous when you talk or by other body language. If you are completely relaxed when talking to hot woman, this will attract her. So, picture her as if you are talking to a little kid.
Think about it, when you talk to a 13 year old girl that is your cousin, for example, are nervous when you talk to her? No. Well, this is the way you should be when you are at a bar with hot chicks.
You muste off as cool, a challenge and someone that she can trust. Again, when I say "cool" I don't mean telling her that you are cool (refer to the above). Let her perceive that you are cool.